Sunday, June 18, 2017

Father's Day!

Sorry for the lack of updates.  Last I posted it was Spring Break. I was able to get the stent removed that was put in during gallbladder surgery to catch any gall stones that might have been loose.  That went great and I am happy to report that now 4 months later my acid reflux is gone as well.  I feel so good.  So, all of that is behind me hopefully. 

Josh graduated from High School.  The pictures are him and then him and his friend Alexis.  It is so hard to believe.  I sound like my parents, but he grew up so fast and it seems like just yesterday when he was born.  Many of you that read this blog celebrated his first birthday with me at my website The Ray Family Website.  I loved those years when we did the country websites and that seems like an eternity ago too.  I miss it.  My last day of school was a week later.  I went to visit my mom and dad at their house and my dad was very sleepy and was bent over in his chair.  I have a good friend that is an EMT and he was worried my dad might have had an infected sore that could have gone septic.  We called the ambulance and it was a very long day/night...but he was put into the hospital and put on anti-biotics.  The next day the doctors told us he would need multiple surgeries to heal this sore and he might end up on a ventilator and feeding tubes.  Now if you have forgotten, my dad has advanced alzheimer's.  We decided to not do the surgeries.  It was not an easy decision to make.  We thought that he would not understand the pain of the surgeries or he might try to take out the feeding tube, the list goes on and on.  He is under hospice care now and has been in a nursing home for several weeks.  He is comfortable in no pain.  Some days he will wake up and talk to us, but he sleeps a lot with the medication he is on.  I posted this picture of us on facebook.  It was taken when I graduated college probably 25 years ago or so.  I was around 22 years old and he was around 51 years old.  I wish he was as healthy as he was then.  It makes me sad to see him in the nursing home.  I get to feed him every day though.  The nurses say he eats best for me.  Not sure of that is true or not,but I am happy to do it.  The hospital had given us 2 weeks for him to live and the nursing home doctor said a month, so we will see what God decides.  Please pray for all of us.  This has not been easy for anyone.   I am just so very happy I got one more Father's Day with him.  I love my daddy!  I visit him everyday, so it has been crazy, but since it is summer, I will try to keep you all posted.  He is holding is own for now. 




4 comments:

Susan said...

Hi Lori, thanks for visiting! I know it is hard so see a parent die. My mom had Alzheimers too. We had hospice and she died at home. Then my dad died of liver failure and that was horrible to watch too and it happened so quickly. I am glad you can be there for him. Sending you hugs and prayers.

Susan said...

Congratulations to Josh!!!

Kathy said...

Hi Lori! So good to hear from you! Congrats to Josh! Yes, the time just flies by! I will be praying for your Dad and your family! Glad you have had time with him!

Susan said...

Lori, so sorry about your dad. He is with the Lord now. I like to believe my dad is on the welcoming committee. :) Hugs